Preschool Prep: Getting Ready for The Big Transition

If your child is starting preschool this fall, you may be approaching this major milestone with conflicting emotions. You’re probably excited about all the fun (you hope) your child will have and the new friends he’ll make. At the same time, you may feel a little sad that your baby is venturing out into the big world without you.

These emotions are normal. Your child is also bound to have a host of feelings about this transition, feeling proud to be a big kid but at the same time worried about being separated from you and starting something unfamiliar.

Having Fun with Preschool Prep : There’s a lot you can do in the weeks before to get ready for the big day. But try to keep your efforts low-key. If you make too big a deal out of this milestone, your child may end up being more worried than excited. Here are some ideas to keep the focus on fun.

• Use pretend play to explore the idea of preschool. Take turns being the parent, child and teacher. Act out common daily routines, such as saying good-bye to mommy and/or daddy, taking off your coat, singing songs, reading stories, playing outside, and taking naps. Reassure your child that preschool is a good place where he will have fun and learn. Answer his questions patiently. This helps children feel more in control, which reduces their anxiety.
• Read books about preschool. There are many books about going to preschool available from the public library in your area. Choose several to share with your child over the summer before school starts. Talk about the story and how the characters are feeling. Ask how your child is feeling.
• Make a game out of practicing self-help skills like: putting on her backpack, fastening her shoes. For example, you might want to have a "race" with your child to see how quickly she can put on her shoes. When you play school together, you can give your child the chance to practice taking off her shirt, zipping her backpack closed etc. If your child will be bringing lunch, pack it up one day before school starts and have a picnic together. This will give her the chance to practice opening her lunch box and start eating her snacks - important skills for the first day!
• Play at your new preschool. Visit your child’s preschool together. Ask when you can tour the school with your child. Play on the school playground a few times before your child starts the program. These visits increase your child’s comfort with and confidence in this new setting.

Worries and Watching : Your child may also have some questions or concerns about starting preschool, either before or after she starts. Help her get ready with these two key strategies:

• Listen to your child’s worries. Although it’s tempting to quickly reassure your child and move on, it’s important to let your child know that her worries have been heard. No matter what they are, big or small, children’s worries about preschool can significantly influence their experience there. Will you remember to pick her up in the afternoon? Will her teacher be nice?

Let your child know it’s normal to feel happy, sad, excited, scared, or worried. Explain that starting something new can feel scary and that lots of people feel that way. It can be helpful to share a time when you started something new and how you felt. When you allow your child to share her worries, you can help her think through how to deal with them. For example, if she is worried about missing you, the two of you can make a book of family photos to keep in her bag and look at it when she is lonely.

Notice nonverbal messages : As much as 3-year-olds may talk, most are not yet able to fully explain how they are feeling or what they are worried about. Your child may “act out” his worry by clinging, becoming withdrawn, or by being more aggressive. Another common reaction, as children take a big move forward, is to actually move backward in other areas. For example, if your child is fully potty trained, he may start have toileting accidents. He may ask that you feed or dress her even though he can do these things by herself.

It is natural to be frustrated by this regressed behavior, and you may be concerned that if you do these things for her, she won’t go back to doing them herself. In fact, letting her play this out often leads to children returning to their “big kid” selves sooner. Remember that your child is facing—and managing—a big change in his life. She may need more support, nurturing, and patience from you while she makes this transition.

The Preschool Countdown: What to Do and When : The last few weeks before starting preschool seem to fly by! As you begin the countdown to the first day, here are some things to keep in mind:

During the 2 Weeks Before Preschool Starts:

• Purchase a backpack together with your child. If possible, let your child choose it herself. This gives her a sense of control and emphasizes the fact that she is a "big kid" starting preschool.
• Label all items—backpack, shoes, water bottle, etc.—with your child’s name and teacher’s name in permanent ink.
• Figure out how your child will get to school and how she will come home. Talk to your child about the morning and afternoon routine so that she understands that she will be safe, okay, and cared for. Make sure your child meets her before- and/or after-school caregiver, if you are using one.
• Start using your child’s “school bedtime.” Help your child get into a preschool schedule by keeping to his or her school bedtime, beginning about 2 weeks before school starts.

The Night Before Preschool

• Answer any last-minute questions from your child.
• Keep the uniform ready. Make sure that your child goes to bed on time.
• Pick a bedtime that gives your child a good night’s rest before his or her first day. Keep the bedtime routine soothing and relaxing. Don’t focus too much (or at all!) on the first day of school unless she wants to.

The First Day

• Wake up early enough so that you and your child don’t have to rush to get to preschool.
• Make breakfast for your child and, if possible, sit down to eat together—or at least talk with her as she eats and you get ready.
• Review the day’s routine (what preschool will be like, how your child will get to school/come home).
• Pack your child’s backpack together. If your child is bringing lunch, select foods that you know are her favorites. Having some familiarity on her first day is helpful as she adjusts to so many changes.

• Saying a Good Good-Bye : These strategies can ease the jitters of separating on your child’s first day at preschool.

  • Plan to stay a little while. Staying for 15 to 30 minutes on that first morning can help ease the transition. Together, the two of you can explore the classroom, meet some other children, and play with a few toys. Cooperate with the teacher and take her guidance in helping your child adjust to the new environment.
  • Keep your tone positive and upbeat. Children pick up on the reactions of the trusted adults in their lives. So try not to look worried or sad, and don’t linger too long. Say a quick, upbeat good-bye and reassure your child that all will be well.
  • Think about creating a special good-bye routine. For example, you can give your child a kiss on his or her palm to “hold” all day long. Or, the two of you can sing a special song together before you leave. Good-bye routines are comforting to children and help them understand and prepare for what will happen next.
  • Resist the rescue. Try not to run back in the classroom if you hear your child crying, as upsetting as this can be. This is a big change and your child may, quite understandably feel sad and a little scared. But if you run back in, it sends the message that she is only okay if you are there and it is likely to prolong your child’s distress and make it harder for her to adapt.

  Rest assured, teachers have many years of experience with helping families make the shift to preschool. Instead, you can wait outside the classroom for a few minutes to ensure that all is well.

  By HamsapriyaS

Stimulate Your Little One’s Imagination

When your child is two or three years old, he begins to do some things, which an adult never understands. It may seem insane for an adult to see a child handling things an adult cannot see, and talks about things not present to an adult’s senses. A child can easily turn blocks and sticks and stones into as many other things or animals or persons as he chooses.

Observe your child. When he feels the need of a new pet, he creates them out of his imagination and he makes them act as per his wish. Things no bigger than mere specks of dust he can transform in a moment to the size of mountains, and mountains he can turn to specks. Unless a child is ridiculed or scolded for this wholesome fun, he lives in a land of make believe.

Help your child with his imaginations. He may pretend for instance that you are he and he is you carrying on this drama for a few days. When he does this, join in with his play. Do not be impatient with him.

When your child enters kindergarten, he seems unable to discriminate between facts and fancies; be sympathetic. Don’t suggest that he is lying. Just calmly help him to know the difference between make-believe as “play stories” and true accounts as “what really happened”.

Avoid words such as LIE and TRUTH. It is best to avoid such vocabulary where there are little children.

Don’t drive the little child to think of himself a liar, when he is so truthful. See to it that you don’t disturb his play with imaginary characters. You may destroy his creative powers and rob his wholesome fun if you do so.

Welcome all the creatures of his fancy to your home. Learn to talk with them and live with them. Encourage his creation. Read to him from pictured storybook. Read, read and read. Open your child’s imagination…open a book. But avoid frightful stories.

Dramatize the story with him, play the part, which he wishes you to play.

So parents, start stimulating your child’s imagination, get some nice time out, lie on your back with him in the garden or on the terrace, watch the clouds passing by, see each strangely shaped cloud and share your imaginations…and I promise you, your child’s imagination will outshine yours in no time.

Blessed is the child whose parents and teachers appreciate his gift of imagination.

Hema Sridhar

Reading skills -the most powerful arm in your child’s hand

The acquisition of reading skills at a very early age cannot be emphasized enough. Importance of reading skills filters into all aspects of school. I have personally witnessed the importance of reading skills on a daily basis in the following areas:

• Language Arts

• Social Studies

• Science

• Mathematics

• Social Skills

Many parents probably think reading skills is only required in language arts. This couldn’t be further from the truth! Of course, your child does need to have adequate reading skills to do well in language arts, but reading skills plays a major role in other subject areas, as well.

Let’s take a look at social studies, for example. Whether your child is learning about his neighborhood in kindergarten, or learning about other countries in the sixth class, he needs to be able to read in order to have a rich learning experience. Even basics of social studies, such as map reading, emphasize the importance of reading.

Let’s look at a real life situation; say the teacher has just introduced the continents to the class. She has pinned a huge map of the world on the wall and asks the class to point out the continents as she calls out the names; for example ' ASIA '

If your child does not have basic sound-symbol recognition skills, he will have a terrible time finding even a single continent. If, however, your child has the basic symbol sound recognition, he will know that the state he is looking for starts with the letter A and ends in A and has a S sound as well. Now, he has a slightly better chance of locating the continent than the first child.

On the other hand there may be another child who has learnt to read at a very young age through the whole word approach. Rather than searching frantically, the child can locate the continents in a jiffy and pay attention to the rest of the teacher’s lesson.

The importance of reading skills is also obvious in science. The hands-on nature of science often makes it a favourite subject of young children but for the complicated reading involved with it

The ability to follow and understand lab procedures correctly is important in science. If your child has solid reading skills, he will be able to successfully follow lab procedures. If she doesn’t, she is likely to be unsuccessful at completing science experiments. This will be both frustrating and disappointing for your child. It can even result in your child disliking science, because she sees it as a subject in which she can’t be successful.

Most parents fail to understand the role of reading in math. Poor reading skills can be a huge obstacle for students in math. Many a children fail in maths in spite of being stong in computation and concepts.

Most parents of young children relate math to numbers.That is never the case. Maths is all about problem solving. This aspect of math is nowadays being given a lot of emphasis right from the primary classes . Therefore, math now includes many story problems, that require reading skills.

A student with a strong math mind, but poor reading skills, can’t possibly do well in today’s math classes. reading skills is a prerequisite to do well in maths.

Less obviously, the importance of reading in socialization is seen in the self-esteem of your child. A child who goes to school every day, unable to read, will experience self-esteem problems. It is human nature to compare ourselves to others. If your child can’t read, but everyone else around him can, he will begin to see himself as less adequate.

Furthermore, a child who struggles with reading often develops a poor attitude about school – and understandably so. To illustrate this point, let’s pretend you had to go to a party where everyone speaks and reads only German. Let’s further assume you are supposed to make a speech as well. And, you need to try to make friends there, too. I am sure the next time you are invited for a similar party you would hesitate and have second thoughts. If your child can’t read, he feels this way, too.

The importance of reading skills for academic success and social acceptance is immense. To give your child the best chance of excelling in school, be sure to provide him with a strong reading foundation and to encourage reading at home.Start at a very young age, when I say young I really mean it AS EARLY AS ONE YEAR.

Mrs. Hamsapriya